Introversion: 10 Myths About Introverts (~By Owl City/Allen Young)

14 Oct

http://owlcityblog.com/2011/06/27/10-myths-about-introverts/

Here are a few common misconceptions about Introverts:

Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.

This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.

Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.

Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.

On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.

Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.

Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.

Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.

Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.

Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.

A world without Introverts would be a world with few scientists, musicians, artists, poets, filmmakers, doctors, mathematicians, writers, and philosophers. That being said, there are still plenty of techniques an Extrovert can learn in order to interact with Introverts. (Yes, I reversed these two terms on purpose to show you how biased our society is.) Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

It can be terribly destructive for an Introvert to deny themselves in order to get along in an Extrovert-Dominant World. Like other minorities, Introverts can end up hating themselves and others because of the differences. If you think you are an Introvert, I recommend you research the topic and seek out other Introverts to compare notes. The burden is not entirely on Introverts to try and become “normal.” Extroverts need to recognize and respect us, and we also need to respect ourselves.

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I hope this clears up a lot of myths/misunderstandings about us introverts.

I think introverted really describes me well. So does crazy and random and outgoing and weird, but there’s more to me than that. I’m only like that with people I can be like that with, i.e. my friends. People who know me. Who can respect my insecurities, weirdness, and awkwardness. Because I act loud and crazy with my friends, to them, introverted is  probably the last thing they would classify me as.

Yes, I guess I am in many ways socially awkward with extroverted people like in classes where I don’t know anyone, but once I have a friend I can talk to (and it’s not easy to become my friend, you have to know me and get me to trust/open up to you. You have to not be like the others.) I will be loud and talkative and weird and random around you, too!

Yes, I like to go out with my friends and do crazy stuff. But that’s ONLY with my best, best friends, and also that’s ’cause my quiet life is too boring, so I have to actually go out and do stuff. But a lot of the time, when I’m with my friends, I’m also very quiet too. I like to sit there and close my eyes. I try to talk with people, but I quickly get tired of noise, chaos, and laughter.

I tend to start smiling or laughing like a robot, and replying sweetly cuz that’s the right/good/socially acceptable thing to do, even with my friends. If you notice that I do that, don’t take it personally. Sometimes I can’t pay attention because I’m just annoyed or tired. I also usually don’t get mood swings, but I WILL get annoyed if when you talk to me, all you do is bitch and whine and complain ALL DAY. (i.e. grades, boys, parents, sickness, lack of sleep, annoying teachers/parents/siblings/friends that have NOTHING to do with ANYONE, and especially i’m annoyed more if you REPEAT your whining throughout the day with different people.)

(begin rant) I also get sick of people who go out of their way to annoy me. In the beginning, okay, I get it, you’re trolling or whatever. which is annoying in itself, and incredibly STUPID and practically says you have the biggest lack of a life ever to amuse yourself by pretending to be smart and saying incredibly irrelevant and idiotic things. but sometimes im just like ok, he’s joking, i should just laugh and tell him to shut up. and then it continues…and im just like OKAY SERIOUSLY? you’re just going to troll about me in front of the entire class too? people probably think im some weirdo. and i dont feel upset or anything, its just annoying. im not like omggg hes bullying me! cuz youre not. you’re just being an idiot, and dragging my name into it. what annoys me is what other people think of me after that: that im some weirdo too. hahaha usually i dont care if people think im a weirdo, cuz i know i am, and sometimes i go out of my way to do things that are incredibly weird around them. i dont quite think i have a “Weird Filter”. But when you drag me into the SPOTLIGHT with weird remarks, where other people can hear and talk about, now THAT annoys me. because of my introverted-ness. i absolutely hate stuff like that.(end rant)

wow, how did this turn into rants about people I get annoyed at or hate? lol i should stop and go back to my introverted-ness.

Introverted people AREN’T SHY at all. We just don’t like to start conversations. this is me. ESPECIALLY me. because introverted people are quite socially awkward, if I don’t KNOW YOU, I can’t TALK TO YOU.

Awkward stuff, like asking to borrow your cell phone, is practically impossible for me. Whereas extroverted people with pretty much no social boundaries can go up to people and smile and ask for whatever they want, nicely. And they get it. most of the time. Whereas introverted people have it harder: we can’t interact well with people, or we would rather not to.

Usually, for me, it’s the second one. In class, I only talk to people who I deem are WORTH talking to – people who are worth wasting time on. I’m not being mean or judgmental, its just I want to get something out of  it — I’m not looking for shallow lip service and charming or winning people over with flattery, i want the truth. And I want to tell the truth, in a way that’s like giving advice or a friendly analysis of character. If I feel like we have nothing to talk about, I won’t talk to you, and I won’t try to hold a conversation. To many people, it may seem that I’m cold or unfriendly, but I just really hate meaningless conversations full of lies.

well. I will finally  publish this post, its been in my drafts forever, and if its not connected or i strayed from my main point, tell me. hahaha leave me a comment or something. i want to know — how many people are like me out there? hahahha

i might come back and reread and edit this when I’m not super tired or brain-dead. TGIF! hallelujah! my life is saved….:O

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4 Responses to “Introversion: 10 Myths About Introverts (~By Owl City/Allen Young)”

  1. eri October 15, 2011 at 9:23 pm #

    haha. this stuff is so true. I think I’m definitely an introvert too.
    Except… I think I am shy sometimes. but other than that, everything else fits, because I’m really awkward when i try to start conversations, but if someone else starts talking to me about something interesting, i can talk to them well.
    i think our whole group is made up of introverts…. haha. except for maybe pooja and jeanelle. Actually, even them, they’re partial introverts, but pooji can actually talk to other people easily and jeanelle doesn’t really think inwardly that that much.

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